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GiGi and Callie

on 01/26/08 12:49 AM Published by libbi

Went to visit my grandparents, who live in Grants Pass. My 86 year old grandmother took me out to Senor Sams, where I shot this great photo of her and my 2 1/2 year old daughter, Callie. Callie refused to eat and just screamed for my soda I was drinking. I finally caved, as I know this is not the right thing to do but I just couldn't stand all the stares from on-lookers in the restaruant. Anybody have any suggestions for me?

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From: Jamie

01/29/08 11:43 AM In addition to Shields' suggestions of firmness and clarity, you may also find it helpful to look within yourself at why you feel uncomfortable with the situation when other people are aware of her loudness...not in a judgmental way, just to see why you feel the way you do. Bon Courage!

From: shields

01/27/08 08:06 AM

Nice Feedback Kyle,

I would have to agree that kids are always looking for the boundry. Your job as a parent is to establish the boundry... and they will push up against it to see if in fact it is real and you will stick to your word. If the boundry is always moving the child will really not have an idea of what is the edged.

Consistency is a vital key for helping children to feel safe and find a stability in their life. We have used this with our son. He eats any food we give him and he knows the edges... every once in a while we have to take a break, have a time out.. but nothing really serious. Just be firm and clear. No need to be mean. Kids want to know who is boss. You're the parent and they depend on you to set the perameters for acceptable behaviour.... so good luck with it.